There are always at least two options when dealing with any decision.
The license to look pessimistically or optimistically is a superpower no one can steal from you. The attitude you hold when making any decision is always up to you.
If you were to find a $20 bill at random without anyone to claim it, you could rejoice at the unplanned financial increase, or you can lament because had you found the $20 earlier, you wouldn’t have had to eat only ramen noodles for the last three days.
Your approach to how the world works is your personal philosophy.
Is the world out to get you, or do you get to choose your adventure on this floating sphere of gravitated water and rock?
Since our lives are largely collaborative, we get to yield and compromise with others in choosing our adventures. For example, if we awoke this morning in a building, chances are we didn’t build it ourselves. There were others who contributed to the design, and the plumbing. More than likely, we are in a particular agreement with the governing energy/electrical company, which supplies you with utilities of convenience.
With this and other collaborations, we are not complete makers of our environment, but there are no such collaborations regarding your way of thinking, your perspective.
That is 100% yours.
And as such, you have the choice on a second-by-second basis to steer your thoughts to any place you desire. Whether a situation is good or bad or if you would rather not judge the situation at all, that is entirely within your power to do so.
At the time of writing this, I am 36, single, living in Long Beach, California, and would like very much to come home to my best friend. To have a best friend with whom I can share this life.
Post cancer medical bills are expensive, California is costly, COVID is inconvenient, and isolation is familiar.
If I choose to, I could bring myself to tears by enumerating the reasons for sadness. Or, I can adjust my focus without denying or invalidating the not-so-pleasant events in my life.
I am in sunny California. A state I admired as a kid while watching shows like Saved By The Bell and movies like Last Action Hero. I am alive. I have a job that supplies me with the monetary compensation to purchase necessities and desires. I have beautiful friends who have even better personalities.
There are always at least two options when facing any decision. The option to look upon things with possibility or limit yourself by only seeing negativity.